FOR TEACHERS: HEALTHY VS. UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
Healthy Relationships Have... |
Unhealthy Relationships Have... |
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| Communication: Mutual open and honest communication about needs and feelings. Saying what you mean and meaning what you say. |
Manipulation, guilt or threats to communicate needs and feelings. |
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| Other Relationships: Friendships can be created and maintained outside of the relationship |
A feeling of isolation, controlling who ones sees or spends time with. |
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| Boundaries: Clear limits that are understood and respected. No means no. |
Lack of boundaries or disregard for boundaries. |
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| Arguments: Arguments can be resolved and both people feel heard and respected. Knowing it is okay to disagree. |
Arguments that end in screaming, hitting, pushing, throwing of objects, destroying gifts, rape or threats. |
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| Trust: Understanding that the other person cares for them and is in the relationship voluntarily. |
Constant checking on the other person and invading their space. |
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| Responsibility: Responsibility for individual actions and behaviors. Not making excuses and admitting when you’re wrong. |
Making excuses or blaming others for behaviors or actions. Acting like abuse is okay in a relationship by making jokes and minimizing the abuse. |
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| Growth: Feeling like you can explore dreams and have interests outside of the relationship. |
A feeling of being stifled, trapped, and stagnant. |
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| Security: Feeling that you both work together to make the relationship good for both of you. |
Fear of the other person or not knowing what to expect. Feeling like they never understand you. |
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| Respect: Acceptance of each others opinions and the ability to move on if the relationship ends. |
Criticism of each others opinions and an inability to let go when the relationship is over. |
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| Happiness: Joy about being with the other person and excitement about your relationship. |
Confusion and sadness a lot of the time. Feeling like things are out of control. |
